When people behave in harmful, aberrant, and grotesque ways, it’s extremely difficult to see them through any lenses other than those of subjective, righteous indignation. We feel as though seeing a heinous “enemy” as anything other than an external threat which must be summarily eliminated is tantamount to a weak, naive, kumbaya sell out. 

We may be intellectually aware of the truism that what we resist persists. We may know full well that a problem cannot be solved, nor an adversary permanently vanquished, using the same level of thinking, wrapped in the same emotions, executed with the same behavior that generated it in the first place. 

Yet the need to be right, the need for one upmanship, to best, silence, or annihilate the opponent can be so overwhelming that it makes any other response feel feckless and counterfeit. Caught up in the intensely seductive drama of trauma our field of vision is narrowed, we “see red” and we feel fully justified in retaliating in kind.

OPTIONS:

Subjective Matrix Response:

The enemy or adversary is perceived as separate and “other” so therefore we:

  • fight back with the intent to visit as much or more pain upon the enemy as we have suffered at their hand,
  • feel righteous and justified in attacking back,
  • fear losing control and/of being hurt again so we ward off helplessness, powerlessness by  fighting and joining the “struggle” to ensure that our needs are met and we’re not dominated, 
  • feel relative lack and deprivation which generates survival anxiety, competition, and victimhood that leads to blame, 
  • succumb to hatred and envy.

Accommodationism: 

We’re all one human family so therefore we:

  • will ourselves to try and love one another, and prioritize getting along,
  • turn the other cheek, stand down when wronged or hurt, and seek compromise with the aggressor at all cost,
  • try to understand why perpetrators do harmful things and with that broader understanding, learn to  tolerate them,
  • take the morally superior high road,
  • outpicture the martyr archetype at the extreme end of this spectrum.

Quantum Science Perspective:

  • Since: 1) consciousness is the only thing that is fundamental, 2) evolution is primary, 3) there is only one undifferentiated field of consciousness (Akasha, the substrate from which all arises) which maximizes its evolution through as many variant experiences as possible, 4) The experiences of 7.5 billion humans facilitate the evolution of the  undifferentiated field, 5) The field evolves IN and AS all sentient beings, 6) We ARE the field having experiences, both joyful and excruciating that facilitate OUR growth, 7) The perceived “enemy” IS the field having experiences, both joyful and excruciating that facilitate THEIR growth, 8) We AND the opponent/enemy/adversary are therefore projections of the field even as our own quality of consciousness gives birth to the projection that we view as the  opponent, 9) The adversary is a teacher offering us lessons [often torturous] for our evolution, 10) We are the adversary’s teaching moment-opportunity to learn lessons and evolve. 

Therefore we:

  • reframe the word “enemy” to connote “projected shadow side of ourselves made  manifest,” because we know that, 1) we’re not separate and, 2) understand that we are not exempt or different. The “them” that we talk about are also us.
  • honestly,  courageously, and non-judgmentally acknowledge our interconnected complicity and discover the problems of humanity within ourselves and within our own lives. 
  • are not synonymous with our mental and emotional issues, but are beings who experience these states.
  • are aware that extending compassion to people whose views and methodologies  are diametrically opposed to ours can be an intense challenge. Yet, this is precisely where the real cutting edge growth and evolution occurs. 
  • know that our consciousness creates reality and we don’t have to be passive recipients of whatever comes our way.
  • experience ourselves as observers, watching ourselves from a vantage point of “deep dispassionate compassion” and can note what our comprehensive operative dynamic is with the perceived adversary.
  • have a range of choices in how we respond to situations in which we find ourselves with adversaries who trigger us. We can take charge and sculpt our own lives by choosing from among options for action that both serve and protect us, as well as promote the evolution of the challenger.
  • recognize that demonization of the adversary is a misallocation of time and energy.